Arguably the single most stressful part of planning your wedding.
As someone who is regularly sent into Wedding Breakfasts to break the ice between guests I have got some knowledge of what might happen if you get it wrong. I want to help you avoid these mistakes.
Here is my step by step plan to achieving the seating plan of your dreams:
Step 1 - Plan Early
The longer you leave it, the harder it will be to decide. If you plan it early you can always change and adjust the plan.
Step 2 - Group Your Guests
Once you have your guest list split them into groups. School friends, co-workers etc. This will give you a good idea as to who can be paired with who
Step 3 - Check Friendships
You want to avoid any awkwardness on your special day, so you need to make sure you don't put any ex-partners on the same table. Don't be afraid to ask people what their relationship is like with different people. They will want to avoid the awkwardness as much as you will. It will save so much pain later on.
Step 4 - Mix Your Groups
Unless you happen to have perfect sized groups for your table sizes you will have to mix the groups. Think about groups that will get on well. Don't assume that generations need to be separate. Mix them up too. Put old with young, it can lead to some interesting conversations.
Step 5 - Avoid A Singles Table
You may think it's a great idea but you can't be sure the singles will. They could think it's embarrassing.
Step 6 - The Top Table
It's your top table. You put who you want up there. Don't be forced to subject to social norms. If you want your friends up there, put them up there. If your parents don't get on then don't feel like they have to be up there too.
Step 7 - Break The Ice
Especially relevant if you have to mix the groups. People often need to have the ice broken to get talking. That's exactly what I do as a magician. I mix among the tables and provide some incredible entertainment that your guests remember for the rest of their lives.
I hope I've helped you plan your seating plan. It can be a stressful process but if you stick to these simple rules it can avoid a lot of pain and stress.
Until next week,