Let’s talk about the F word at weddings.
When I say F word I mean family of course!
The problem with family is where do you start inviting people and where do you stop. This is an ever growing problem if you have a larger family.
You obviously want as many of your family as you can to be part of your wedding day. It’s an important day and you want them to celebrate with you. However, if your family is 30, 40, 50 + people then that can be a struggle.
Having said that, I think there are some obvious people that have to be included.
It goes without saying that your parents, grandparents, aunties, uncles, cousins, brothers, sisters and nieces and nephews are invited. The ‘direct relations’ have to be there. This is where it gets harder to decide.
For me, this is the majority of my small family which makes my life easier. My girlfriend on the other hand would have a very different approach with 100 + relatives to choose from!
I think when it comes to your wedding and you can’t afford to have them all there (remember you are buying them all a meal and putting on a party for them) then you need to start looking at narrowing down your options.
When it comes to narrowing down there is no right or wrong answer to this. You need to do what is right for you!
Some people are super close to their uncle twice removed, others don’t even know if they have one. That’s why you need to look at your relationship with each person carefully.
It starts to get trickier when you are looking at spouces of relatives. You may want to invite the relative but not the spouce.
If that’s the case I’d probably divert you to my article 2 weeks ago entitled ‘Who Goes On The Guest List’ where we talk about these types of situations.
The last thing you want is to feel uncomfortable about any of this. You need to be happy on your wedding day which can only happen if you have the people you want there, there!
Just because they are family doesn’t mean you have to invite them. You do what you’re comfortable with and everyone should understand!
Until next week,